Love: Siblings sit in the South of the Love Medicine Wheel
Siblings sit in the south along with trust and innocence, emotions, self-expression, self-discipline, leadership, impulse control and reality. These are many of the things that form who you are. So whether your siblings are biological, or not, or are other children you grew up with in the same home, you were/are dramatically influenced by those relationships, and the love or lack thereof within them. I never know what will come until I start writing, and I have to say the sheer quantity of this one surprised me. Siblings and love is apparently bigger than I thought in my world. Imagined reality versus reality. These surprises are always interesting to me.
Interconnections on other medicine wheels:
~ Trust and innocence: Childhood is the time when our trust and innocence starts out unscathed
~ Water: Siblings who share a womb are very connected by water, as are all children. We grew in our mothers womb, lots of water there
~ Sacred Plants: Plants for most of us, are the first things after mothers milk/formula that we eat as infants. They become a part of us, nourishing & sustaining us
~ Love: No matter whether we are close to our siblings or not, the love that binds us is usually one of the strongest in our lives
~ Self-expression: Siblings offer us mirrors to discover & play with self-expression. They are after all from a primal perspective the competition, for our parents nourishment in all forms. To be different or the same as the child who is favoured can have a dramatic effect on a childs choice of self-expression. The politically correct illusion a lot of parents create, that all their children mean the same to them …. well from experience we know that more often than not, it’s a fantasy. It’s not right or wrong it’s just human nature, try as we might to fight against it. Children that are mirrors for who we are, might be more challenging for us, than children that aren’t. Hence we have an affinity for the child that doesn’t push our buttons in the same way. Children are just like any other human being, in part here for us to heal and grow. My child more than anyone else has had the greatest effect on my healing journey. Then the teen years come and holey moley, dramatic changes take place in self-expression, as children separate themselves from their parents identity to form their own. In addition we know from scientific exploration that sibling birth order plays a role as well.
~ Pain: Often our first experiences of physical and emotional pain are due to our interactions with siblings. Siblings when young seem to be competitive by nature.
~ Death: The death of pieces of the self often occurs, through our interactions with siblings
~ Impulse Control: Well I think this one is a no brainer. We learn and play with impulse control with siblings. We learn to share, to not think only of ourselves, to follow or not follow the ‘family rules’. The places where I needed to do the most personal forgiveness work relating to my siblings, was around lack of impulse control.
~ Self-Discipline: This goes hand in hand with impulse control, self-discipline is the brake we learn to use, to attain impulse control
~ Leadership: From first born to last, we learn about leadership. Who’s going to be the leader, is a common decision in childhood, conscious or not. Whether it’s playing a game, or who’s going to ask mom/dad for …… First borns in particular often have leadership thrust upon them.
~ Reality: Our personal realities are very different as siblings. I remember when I was younger, my sister asking me why my mom pushed my buttons so, and why I reacted like I did. (It wasn’t pretty!) One of the reasons she didn’t understand my behaviour was we have a very different perspective and therefore reality. Not one sibling has the exact same parent as the other. Our parents change just as we do. Who my mother was with her first child me, 8 years before my sister was born, was a very different person than the mother my sister knows. Add into the mix how different we are as individuals, well hello our realities are like chalk and cheese. It’s not good or bad it just is.
~ Personal History: How much of the personal history that you carry, has to do with your siblings? Enough said.
When I was growing up there was this lovely cartoon series created by New Zealand cartoonist Kim Casali. (Loveiscartoon.com) I remember waiting for the newspaper to see what the cartoon was that day. It is one of the few things that stuck in my memory about that time in my life. So I’m taking a leaf out of her book, sans cartoons to illuminate my thoughts about love in the upcoming blog posts. Some you may agree with some you may not, it is just my opinion, you have your own and that’s as it should be.
I encourage you to add your own in the comments sections & I will add them in.
Mayan Daykeeper Kimi ~ The essence of Kimi is death of the physical body in this lifetime. Kimi invites us to look at all aspects of death. Make death an ally, rather than an unknown fear.
Those affected by Kimi’s presence may be aware of ancestors,
both their own and those of others.
Kimi may bring to your awareness the immortal spirit
within and beyond the human body.
On Kimi days, you may choose to remember ancestors,
appreciate what has been passed on to you
and remember that a part of you lives on forever.
Those born with Kimi as their Daykeeper
are capable of clarifying the meaning and purpose of death
through discovering the gifts of humanity’s ancestors.
They respect those that have gone before them
and often give voice to those whose voices are no longer heard.
This is an exerpt from
Mayan Calendar Voice of the Galaxy by Raymond Mardyks and Stacia Alana-Leah
Should you wish to know your Birth Daykeeper, please contact me and send me your Birthday.
Previous Kimi days this year Jan 9th, 29th, Feb 18th,, March 10th, 30th, April 19th, May 9th, 29th, June 18th, July 8th, 28th, Aug 17th, Sept 6th, 26th, Oct 16th
Your interpretation and experience is your own. I can only share my personal understanding, I invite you to find your own truths and their relevance in your life. This is really important. If something resonates great, if not chuck it out. We gain nothing by ‘taking on’ others life experiences and beliefs. The juice and healing comes from within your own understanding, it is pivotal for your healing journey and manifesting what you want.